The Miracle of Friendship by Mayo Angelo.
A Miracle called friendship Dwells within the heart
You don't know how it happens Or when it gets it's start
But the happiness it brings you, Always gives a special lift
Then you realize that friendship Is one of God's most precious gifts!
It was my special blessing and precious gift from God to have had Ann Marie Hinds as a friend, for as I often tell everyone, she virtually saved my life.
So while her death from her point of view was a great relief, for me, her friends and family, it's a great loss.
For if there was ever an irreplaceable human being, it was my late Guyanese sister Ann-Marie Hinds nee Defreitas.
I first met Ann Marie around thirty five years ago when she and her young children accompanied her then husband Bill, who was transferred from Guyana to Jamaica, to head a division of the corporate office of the Canadian Imperial Bank of Commerce. (CIBC).
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Ann Marie with one of her twin boys, Gino and I in November 2024. |
They had three very young children (including twin boys) but when the British High Commission in Jamaica needed someone who spoke English and Portuguese urgently to fulfill a temporary assignment, they prevailed on her to assist them as she had lived for years in Brazil.
However what should have been a temporary role there soon evolved into permanent employment and she spent quite a few years working there and living very nearby.
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With Shadrach (partly hidden) on same occasion.
The Miracle of her importance to our lives was played out in July 1995 when Thor, my only son, who had just fathered his son Shadrach, was murdered.
If you have never trod that path, the effect of such an occurrence can never be understood.
For during that agonizing period of tragedy and shock, neither Michelle (Shadrach mom) nor I were capable of doing anything.
And I mean anything, much less tending to the needs of a six week old baby.
But it was during period that God's special gift to us stepped in. For every afternoon after work, Ann Marie would drive past her own home without stopping, to head straight to our home, to bathe, feed and tend to our new born.
I don't recall how many days or weeks she continued that absolutely essential act of mercy and goodness, but the blessings of having such a friend when we most needed it, can never be forgotten or repaid. |
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We were so happy to see her on Thanksgiving Day 2024. |
As the years went by and some memories of that tragedy faded, our friendship grew stronger and when she returned to Guyana, I went and spent three wonderful weeks there with her.
But I have never been able to come even close to repaying her for the critical, life-saving role she played in our lives when we needed it most.
It was therefore especially devastating when around eighteen months ago, she visited Florida and during her time here, got ill and and was diagnosed with cancer.
Guyana has a very advanced cancer treatment center, so she returned home and had to have two operations and undergo painful and debilitating bouts of chemotherapy.
I was however overjoyed when she called in November 2024 to say she was feeling a little better, so was coming to Florida to again see her family and spend a few weeks with me.
It was during that visit that she started to feel unbearable pain and when we went to the ER, they discovered that the evil disease had gone into her liver.
But the woman of courage that Ann Marie was, decided to accept her pending death, for as far as she was concerned, the treatment was worse than the disease.
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(L) granddaughter Rayane, (R) daughter Anjeta.
If you have ever felt you owed someone your life but are unable to do anything to help them in their time of suffering, you may begin to understand how inadequate and useless I have felt during the months of her intensive pain and suffering.
For the agonizing pain she bravely confronted for months on end, was excruciating and heart-wrenching.
Yes, now her pain is finally gone but the impact she had on our lives will forever live on in our hearts.
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Till we meet again, walk good mi fren.๐ฅ.